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Click Into Joy!

Personal Change Method

Reducing Phobias

Phobias are based on a hint of reality smothered by mountains of fearful fantasies. Phobias may have been initially caused by our reaction to a traumatic event earlier in our life. That earlier reaction has become applied to anything which remotely reminds us of the earlier situation, limiting our ability to deal effectively with reality in the present moment. 

The fear of heights is a very common phobia. A little of this fear ads to our excitement and wonder as we near the top of any mountain or high view. Too much of this fear is not only irrational (we are not going to fall off that cliff if we are 20 feet from the edge!), but can be dangerous in and of itself. Panicky, irrational fear can cause us to freeze, to become paralyzed and lose our skills  in exactly the wrong spot.

The Click Into Joy technique is a simple method of increasing our ability to letting go of anxiety in any situation. In the process, we tend to forget about haunting anxieties and become totally awake now. Action from this state of "mindfulness in the present" tends to be precise, enjoyable, successful and positively memorable.

As a note of caution, it is important that we don't learn the Click Into Joy! Personal Change Method and then immediately put ourselves in situations which have previously caused us great fear. We still need to use our common sense in any practical application.

The focus of the method is not about conquering a specific fear. Rather, it is about learning how to let go of anxiety in general. But when the rubber hits the road, there is no other way to conquer any phobia except learning to let go in the moment, to become expert in evoking relaxation within ourselves. 

A simple example of how the Click Into Joy! technique has been applied to acrophobia (the fear of heights) is given below.

"Last summer I took my eleven-year-old godson on a trip to the Rockies. From New York City, he was not used to outdoor heights of any kind, and was afraid to climb even a ladder on an average house. I myself liked climbing, but had more fear than I was willing to admit.

We spent several days in a low-lying situation (at Vedawoo in Wyoming, about four miles east of the Continental Divide on Interstate 80--a great place to teach kids how to climb). It became apparent right away that he was the confident one. With no problem, he was stepping near the edge of boulders at apparent heights which made my heart stop. I was the one who was saying "be careful!!!", gripping with white knuckles on absurdly safe rocks.

I decided that this was a little funny. I was the one who was supposed to be teaching him how to have fun. I suddenly remembered having recently learned the Click Into Joy! Personal Change Method, and decided to use it to "let go" into the moment. Standing on a large, high-up boulder, I did so. Within a couple of seconds (actually after about three or four intentions) my heart relaxed, my mind cleared, and my soul began to rejoice at how high we were (at only 400 feet!)

As we went higher, I continued to use the technique. I am not saying my fear of going higher each time completely went away, but I realized that I actually had a method with which I could handle that fear. It was a good feeling.

We spent several days at Vedawoo and then went to Colorado. We ascended Mount Evans on the nation's highest roadway. The main peak is several hundred feet above the end of the road. It then snakes off in a razor's edge far into the distance.

It was easy and fun to ascend to the main peak. Once up there, I decided to venture onto the razor-back. There, the ground drops precipitously of of both sides.

My stomach once again tied itself up in knots, and my mind raced my imagined body to the rocks far below. I couldn't move.

I imagined my idiocy at having to signal my godson to get help, and froze in fear. But remembering once again the Click Into Joy! technique, I intended to relax in the specific manner taught by the method. Within seconds, I saw the reality of the situation: the bulk of the razor-back was about 15-20 feet wide! Like, duh, how was I going to fall off the middle of it?

So, keeping at the middle, I used my 'new' relaxation ability and ventured quite far over the landscape. The view was breath-taking, and I was so proud of myself I could have burst.

When logic told me that going further would be beyond my normal abilities, I turned around and saw my godson waving happily at me. He told me later that the other tourist-types on the main peak were marveling at what I was doing, and saying how dangerous it was.

But me, I knew it just looked dangerous. That was half the thrill of it!

I look forward to next summer and actually becoming a better climber, in part from my new confidence in using the Click Into Joy! technique."



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